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david bowie quote about aging
david bowie quote about aging

Happy Sunday,

I made a pledge to keep my notes & thoughts short this week.

Primarily because my last few posts have been longer essays and creative brevity is something I’m actively working towards. There’s a notorious quote in the annals of writing (unclear who actually said it first):

“I would have written a shorter letter, but I did not have time”

Brevity is creative. Brevity is discerning. Brevity carries weight. Brevity can say things, convey things, and create things, that loquaciousness cannot. Brevity is a desirable arrow in the professional and creative quiver.

Circumstantially, aiding and embedding my goal of brevity, last week I picked up Spain’s flavor of Covid while in Mallorca (wonderful place!) and have since guzzled enough alternating swigs of DayQuil and NyQuil to likely sedate a large bear.

So for both creative and health reasons, my notes today are short.

In my couch-ridden weekend riding the DayQuil wave, I’ve consumed a smorgasbord of great content. The economy is showing signs of cautiously optimistic resilience, Netflix’s Quarterback series was excellent (Peyton Manning has the Midas touch), and I loved this thoughtful piece on self-delusion in our lives, and the consideration that, sometimes, self-delusion can be a positive.

But the best thing I read this weekend (there are still 6 hours to go, mind you) was a simple David Bowie quote on aging (brevity FTW!):

“Aging is an extraordinary process whereby you become the person you always should have been”

When I read this quote, my mind feels as if I’ve just taken those wonderful first few sips of cold champagne, a telltale signal that I could easily pump out a few thousand words exploring it.

Instead, in faithfulness to brevity, I leave below a few rough, uncut, shorthand notes that capture my considerations of Bowie’s quote in preparation for another week ahead.

I hope the quote positively contributes to your Sunday headspace as it does mine.

Have a great week.

My notes/questions in response to David Bowie’s quote:

“Aging is an extraordinary process whereby you become the person you always should have been”

  • Aging does seem to be an extraordinary process in the sense of biological certainty – it is extraordinary in its unrelenting win rate. It is undefeated, it has never lost. Aging makes Tiger Woods, Michael Jordan, Tom Brady, and Roger Federer look streaky and average by comparison.

  • Who does best with aging in our society, and what is their relationship to this idea of the person they “always should have been”?

  • If we know the person we “always should have been”, does that make the aging process easier/more fun/more graceful/more financially successful?

  • If we don’t know, or resist journeying toward, the person we “always should have been”, does that make aging harder?

  • “the person you always should have been”: this suggests a fixed/finite unchanging nature to ourselves, a singular person we are each ourselves circling the drain toward becoming, or reverting back to. Does this rob us, even if slightly, of our own agency? It seems to.

    • if there is not a single person we “always should have been”, what is our relationship to the person, or people, we become as we age?

  • Implied in the quote is that there’s a gap between who we are now (today) and who we will become (future). Is there a correlation between life satisfaction and the size of the gap? If so, is it inverse? (Smaller the gap b/t who you are and who you become = higher life satisfaction?)

  • how does one know when they’re moving closer to, or further away from, the person they always should have been? What are the signals and signs?

  • A false choice, but a fun one to consider: Is life fundamentally a regression toward our own personal mean and learning to accept that (“a leopard cannot change its spots”) or a continuous, increment elevation to a new personal mean?